How a Christian Accepts Me

When you say you accept me,

what does it really mean?

The first speech from your lips is,

“Love the sinner, but hate the sin!”

Am I to be grateful for your willingness

to allow me in!

When you say,

“Love the sinner but hate the sin”–

what are you really saying?

When you say you accept me,

what does it really mean?

When you say you accept me,

But your focus is what goes on between the sheets of my bed?


When you told me that you found someone to love

and then told me you were getting married,

I said, “How wonderful for you

to have someone to share your love!”

When I told you that I found someone to love

and then told you we were so happy,

WHY did you say,

“I don’t care whom  you sleep with!”


When you say you accept me.

even if I “sin” as you call it,

does that mean,

I am less than You?

When you say, “love the sinner but hate the sin”

what are you really saying?

Are you saying that if I am intimate with my chosen spouse

I am somehow not as good as you?

And you say, “I don’t judge you. That is God’s job.”

Somehow I still feel you have some reservation about me

and whom I love…

But you are being Christian because you are still talking to me

WOW! Am I suppose to be grateful to you?

Are you saying that if I express myself emotionally with my partner,

caress them and show them affection, I am a sinner?

Are you saying, Jesus would condemn me to hell,

because I show love to my faithful partner whom I have chosen for life?

When you say, “love the sinner but hate the sin”

What are you really saying?

When you say, you accept me,

What are you really saying?

You were born with the genetics

To  love and cherish someone of the opposite sex

I was born with the genetics

To love and cherish someone of the same sex

Does this mean I should not have a partner in my life?

Does this mean I am perverted?

Does this mean I am a sinner?

Does this mean I sin when I love?

Hatred does not cease by hatred ...

Hatred does not cease by hatred … (Photo credit: symphony of love)

 When you say,

“Love the sinner but hate the sin”

What are you really saying?

When you say you accept me,

what does it really mean?

22 responses to “How a Christian Accepts Me

  1. No, that’s what I’m saying. I may not agree with the choices you make (or non-choice) but that doesn’t speak less about who you are. I saw that you’ve read my blog and I hope that it would change your mind, your heart, of what a true Christian is. You are not less than me.

  2. beautiful words and I hope that some Christians will read them and be able to look deep into their hearts and realize that a few of them actually hate and not love.
    Some of them say one thing and do the oposite…

  3. Nice reading about you

    Thanks for visiting my blog. Be in touch. Browse through the category sections, I feel you may find something of your interest.

    • Recently…within the last year…I confided to two very important people to me about my sexual orientation. Their response to me was: “Love the sinner, hate the sin.” To me they were saying that IF I chose to have a womyn lover, then I would be choosing to sin. This saddened me. They laid judgment on me and made me feel like I would be less worthy in the eyes of God because I am a homosexual. So I ask the question, wondering if I misunderstood what they meant by the apparently adopted quote and position of the present Catholic Church? Does my gender orientation make me unacceptable to God?

      • God does not judge.

        It’s difficult to respond to this question because either way the answer might offend you. Just recently I used the word “gay” and I use old English. Two people were offended. We were happy with our conversation and I asked “Are you Gay”. I apologize profusely but the damage is done. They are upset.

        I am not a homosexual. My brother is. And we are catholic. We do not see the homosexuality as a sin. However, we do not like the effect of homosexuality on my brother for so many reasons.

        This issue will not go away, For as long as you are seeking and asking questions in the blogging world, it might be upsetting. I don’t want you to be upset. I hope you will find peace in yourself. Pax Tecum.

      • dear Seeker,

        I am not offended by your response. And I understand “gay” can be used to express happiness and joy. That does not bother me as it apparently bothered the two individual you were speaking about.

        Some people say, “That’s gay”—-in that sense, yes, it does NOT mean to me “That’s happy”——because of the social stigma already attached to it in this country. When people say, “That is gay”——it is derogatory in this country.

        In any case, c’est la vie!

        I am happy for your brother that you do not see homosexuality as a sin. Yes, it is a very difficult life when one is gender orientated towards one’s own gender. There is so much hostility out in the world against gay people. But surely you see that your brother is your flesh and blood and is also called my God to live his true self. I think people make way too much of it, myself. God is neither gender. God is LOVE.

        It does not upset me if people do not agree with me—–those I do not seek approval from in any case LOL—well, I guess it is not really approval but acceptance———

        I like to be accepted for who I am…… we not all?

        I wrote the poem with the QUESTION so that the people in the blogging world and beyond would begin to THINK BEFORE they throw out these slogans!

        I appreciate your asking me the question you did…….helped to clarify it more for me.

        Blessings to you and to your brother and family! Olivia

      • I read the poem in your posting. “I do my thing, and you do your thing.I am not in this world to live up to your expectations.And you are not in this world to live up to mine.You are you and I am I.And if by chance we find each other,It’s beautiful.” I do NOT see this as a poem of acceptance and I have read it and heard 40 years ago.I think it is more a position of indifference than acceptance. I do not see its relevance in this posting. I do not think my loving another human being, somehow is any less an expectation I would have in a relationship than any other person would have in an partner relationship. For me to be accepted means accept me a human being with the right to love whom I choose. Do not think of me as a sinner, because I am a lesbian or gay or transgender.

      • Need I say more. As I said, no matter what I would say, you will be offended. God bless you nor do I judge you nor do I call you a sinner. I hope you will find peace.

      • I am not offended by you…I just was responding to what you wrote. God bless you too! I do not judge you or call you a sinner, either. I hope you also find peace.

  4. Thank you for sharing this wonderfully eye opening post, one I hope many will read and realize that until who we choose to be with is a non-issue then we have a ways to go. I love the line ‘WHY did you say ‘I don’t care whom you sleep with!’ because it’s so true. Would anyone say that to a hetero? Last year I was following a reality cooking show and was annoyed with a scene near the beginning when in the household one of the chefs asked the others ‘Ok who’s married, who’s not’ and when a man mentioned he was engaged, and then corrected the pronoun from ‘she’ to ‘he’ when others began commenting, they applauded but he looked embarrassed. I think I could understand that he felt it should be a non-issue that his engaged partner is a man. That’s how I felt anyways. Not that applause isn’t awesome, but let’s just have normal acceptance, like if his intended was a woman. I dream of a world, a time, when sexual orientation matters as much, and is judged as much, as whether we are left- or right-handed! This poem is tremendous and I’ve enjoyed it greatly. Know that you are perfectly accepted by many, including me!
    🙂 Hugs, Gina

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